Jenn's Reverie
Friday, August 12, 2005
Who's Your Daddy?
DJ Dickhead strikes again. I decided that he's not just a hardass, he's a dick. Therefore, I am retiring the name DJ Hardass and he is picking up DJ Dickhead. I only like him because he gives me things to post about.
Here I am yet again on my way to work, I get to 104.7 and hear him and his I-know-it-all voice blaring through my speakers. (Lower the speakers, Jenn. Oh smart one.) He's saying something along the lines of 'There has to be a reason why you're attracted to this guy.' He then continues, 'Were you ever abused?' She's like, "No." He asked, "Sexually assaulted." She's like, "No." He asks more questions trying to get a "yes" out of her but he is failing miserably. Then out of no where he asks, "What about your dad?" And she responds sounding a bit shocked, "My dad?! What are you talking about?" He starts asking more questions like, 'has he ever beat you or assaulted you' and still he's getting "No, no, no." She finally explains to him that she had the "perfect" childhood. Dad and mom are still married, they were good to her and her siblings and have always been there for them and are 'til this day. DJ D doesn't like what's going on and finally asks, "Did he ever hit you." She say's, "Well, when we were little he used to spank us." You could just hear the little light bulb go off in DJ D's head. He asks, "Did he use an object?" The caller say's, "Well, sometime's a belt." And ergo DJ Dickhead goes on his little rant.
He starts telling her how that's a form of abuse and her father may not be a bad person but he's a bad father. She's just kinda like, 'Yeah, whatever' by this point. He say's that because her father 'struck them' with a belt it had a profound effect and now she is attracted to these type of men because that's all she's used to. What?! He fucking spanked them! He didn't hang them from their toes and lash them with whips.
The caller is pretty much just letting him talk at this point because, well, I'm sure she figured out he's a dick just like I did. So he's going on that she needs help because her father has ruined her. And when she gets help it will help her to make better choices with men. He even went so far as to give a history lesson on Dante's Inferno.
Well, listen here, Dick, my dad spanked us with belts when we were children. Myself and my brothers are far from traumatized by it. Actually, I don't even remember that part about him unless we're reminiscing and talking about "remember when." And we actually share a laugh over it. I've not personally ever spanked my son with a belt, but I have spanked him. Does this mean I'm abusive and as you called this callers father, an "out-of-control parent?" I don't think so.
The caller chooses to stay with men that she finds out are wrong because she's a douchebag. She damn told him over and over that she didn't have a rough childhood in the least. DJ D is entitled to not believe in spanking but damn, to start telling people that they were beat and how their father is a bad father after they've told you different. I know, I know, SHE called the station. But that's not the point, so shush.
I mean seriously, I don't believe that she stayed with some guy that's an asshole because she was spanked with a belt and now all she knows is abuse. I am now starting to see that DJ D's theory to anyone who makes wrong choices is only because that's what they were taught and how they grew up. Yes, we all know that people who've had a rough life growing up can end up screwed up because of it. But, it doesn't mean that some people aren't screwed up just because. Hey, when in the human assembly line, some people get passed up and missing a screw, some more. Not that this girl is screwed up, she just needs to realize that someone out there will treat her better and that she deserves it.
I think DJ Dickhead needs to swallow his pride and admit that HE DOESN'T HAVE THE ANSWER TO EVERYTHING! And maybe you don't agree with me and for whatever strange reason agree with him. *throws tongue* But that's what the comment section is for.
posted by Jenn Doll at 4:13 AM
27 Comments:
DJ is a ratings whore, look at him. He got you blogging about it.
All publicity is good pbulicity, even bad publicity.
Hmmm the DJ is going for whatever makes the best press. Last time he was attacking the girl, this time attacking the parents. You're right, he's a dick. So the big question is, why do you still listen to him?
As far as spanking goes, I got spanked witha variety of objects over they years. Hand, belt, paddle, hairbrush (that is no fun, and an antique schoolmaster birch rod. (owowowowow!)
In all of them I can think of one instances where I don't think I deserved it.
Exmi: I listen because I'm like that girl and I like assholes. I keed! I keed!
I like hearing people argue their points about stuff. Whether I agree or not. And he gives me stuff to post about!
One day I'm gonna call him and just be like, "What douchebag screwed up your life when you were growing up that makes you the dick you are today?"
Pttttthhhhh. What a jackass. I got spanked as a child; it wasn't child abuse. My dad was an evil abusive man, but he never abused me. Trust me there is a huge difference between being spanked and being beaten.
Hell, my elementary school used to spank with a wooden paddle with holes in it...
Well, thats the compensation culture for you.
People no longer think that it is conceivable for people to be responsible for THEIR mistakes or bad choices. They just seek out somebody to point a finger at.
My Mom nailed my ass with a baking spoon more times than I can remember, but Im like you, it did me no physical harm, it only made me respect her more.
Children need to be disciplined, "spare the rod, and spoil the child" rings VERY true if the brats walking the streets these days are anything to go by.
No doubt you are doing a GREAT job with your son and he will be one of the few with respect in years to come. If anybody questions or doubts that they'll get a smack too.
And as for the DJ? It seems like HE needs a hiding. Or a kick to the balls.
YAY! Im a Geek.
It must be karma. Cos I used to be the guy that stole the geeks lunch money at school.
Thanks Jen. : )
I think people who immediately jump to the Freudian its your mother's/father's fault approach want to seem intellectual when they really are not.
It's true parents can mess up a kid, but its the adult the kid becomes that has the power to change. You can never fix what is past.
I think your getting spanked by your parents as a child has made you harbor automatic negative feelings towards this DJ dude.
:D
Sorry to hear your car radio is broken and will only receive that station...
DJ Dickhead sounds as though he is just trying to keep the phone lights lit in the radio station.
Like the rest of the commentators so far, I was spanked, deservedly so. I knew it was coming before each on (after age 6 or so).
But it was more terrifying the time I didn't get spanked. You know, "wait 'til your father gets home."
He does and you hear Mom tell him.
Then nothing.
A silent dinner because everyone is waiting for the eruption.
Then, after dinner, the "I think we should talk."
Huge pucker factor there...
First of all, people have GOT to stop blaming their problems on their childhood. As many great people have shown, it IS entirely possible to rise above a shitty upbringing and be a quality person.
In my family, it's my dad. He's awesome -- hard working, a great husband and father, he can fix or build anything,funny, really intelligent and just a really great guy.
HIS dad, however, was a different story. He used to beat up my dad and his brother -- fists in the face, kicking, the works, as well as his gift for verbal abuse. I always called him "Asshole Grandpa." Anyway, my dad still loved his dad and he took only my grandpa's (few) good qualities and none of the bad ones. I really admire my dad, for a lot of reasons, but that is definitely one at the top of my list.
I get so irritated with people who are afraid to discipline their children bbecause they're afraid the kids might hate them. This, coupled with people not taking responsibility for their own actions and blaming other people for their problems is why even though I really want to have kids, I sometimes think twice about bringing them into a world full of people like that.
I just want to say hi, and that you and all your posters are nice.
(phew, hopefully RT won't go apeshit on me again)
I think you & the leprachaun said it all.
I would only add, listen to a different radio station. You don't need his fodder for posting material. You're plenty interesting without 104.7!
My husband had a HORRIBLE childhood with an abusive alcoholic father and a neglectful lush for a mother. He must have turned out bad right? Nope. The boy practically raised himself and is the kindest person I ever met. He doesn't drink and is a great father and husband. He has more patience than God.
I am so sick of people blaming other people for their own problems. We all make our own decisions. Sometimes we make good ones and sometimes we make bad ones. I think you should call DJ Dickhead up and tell him off.
This DJ sounds an awful lot alike a nationally syndicated radio show that comes on out here, too.
I think that those of us that grew up in a certain generation, were spanked as children. Then, there was a generation of touchy-feely people that wouldn't spank their kids. To each, their own.
It is true that some people are screwed up because of some tragic event in their lives, such as abuse. But that it is a cop out, to live their lives through this experience. There are a great many people that have changed their own lives, for the better, after going through such an event.
I, myself, was spanked with a wooden spoon. And to this day, I can't smell Irish Spring soap without thinking of the taste of it.
I might actually piss you off more than the DJ. Women don't stick with jerks because they were abused -- they stick with jerks because they are women. Women say they want a nice guy, but how many women will actually go out twice with a nice guy? "There's no chemistry." Yeah, because he didn't tear you down. "He's too timid." That means that he wasn't an aggressive jerk.
Women want jerks. I don't care what women say -- looka at what they do. Complete jerks tend to be out, but a guy that doesn't have some jerkiness isn't going to get any time.
Add in that a woman gets chemically addicted to a guy when she has sex with him, and it is pretty easy to see why women stay with bad guys. The bad is what they were attracted to at first, and it only gets worse once they start boning them.
Leprachaun is right. DJ Dickhead's producer found a nerve and she's going to pump it for every ratings point it's worth.
And Jenn, you are the most beautiful woman in New Mexico. Just an observation of your new avatar.
And I understand that you may think I'm using the term "avatar" incorrectly, since it is usually used to describe a graphic expression of the essential image the representative is attempting to project, but since your photo is usually a high contrast 3/4 shot taken from the right, with emphasis on the drama of your eyes, that to me has become a graphical expression you're attempting to project, and therefore has transcended mere representation of your face.
If it is, in fact your face.
Yes, it's this complicated to be a star. :)
LOL! This is why I just put on my John Denver Christmas CD in the player every morning on the way to work... I hate radio...
...so much, I listen to John Denver.
*smirk*
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*Sigh* I miss guys like that, Hulabelly. All I seem to be able to find in my age range, in my area, are the jerks... Which is why I'm still single.
But then, I guess if I were more aggressively hunting...
Anyway.
Rat in a Cage: Put 'em up, pal! Let's duke this out! Why, I could whip you with one hand tied behind my back! I may be small, but... Humm... Hey, wait a minute. I'm small. I'll get my ass kicked! Never mind. Lots-o-Love, Baby!
OK two points here:
1) You guys are dogging the girl pretty hard, but she's not the one blaming her parents, DDJ is telling her to blame her parents, which she's not buying. However, she is looking for help. Her only stupidity comes from trying to get that help from a DJ.
And 2) I'm reading over a lot of these stories about how people come from a bad childhood and end up being a great adult... And I love it! Many people ARE able to overcome their past.
Unfortunately, there are others who don't, and they pass it on to their kids, until somewhere the cycle is either broken, or it's not.
Thing is, you can't fix something when you don't even realize it's broken. I give the girl in our story Kudos! for even realizing that something was broken, even if she did screw up how she's trying to fix it.
BTW, in case you couldn't tell, I still believe that a lot of what happens in your childhood, as well as the choices you make as an adult, molds who you are today.
I know a lot of you guys are saying that you're tired of hearing people blame their parents for stuff, but if you take that away from them, you also take away the fact that there are some wonderful parents out there that have done a great job. It bothers me too, but you know, you can't have it one way and not the other. If you run across someone like that, and you just blow 'em off and tell them to take responsibility for themselves, it's not really helping. They may not know what responsibility is, or how to take it. Instead, maybe just suggest that they get help?
...I don't know, I started talking out of my ass about a paragraph ago, because this is fairly new territory for me. I guess I just hate to see even one 'lost soul' so I'm always looking for ways to help. I'm going to stop now. ...
People have free will. Screw this guy. If I were you, I'd find another station.
Damnit girl, when are you going to start listening to me, kick your radio til sparks fly, then buy an XM receiver. You will kick yourself for not doing it sooner.
At least your musical taste is consistent.
Just wait til I start posting my "mp3's from hell" next week :)
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Sometimes at some point in a persons life they have to stand up and say I cant blame my bad choices or bad behavior on my parents. When I was 5 maybe. But now Im an adult I make my own choices and I need to take responsiblity for thos choices. I feel for thos who have had a bad childhood..But making excuses for your mistakes doesnt get you jack. Only learning from them and moving past them does. Good post Jenn.
Whoa, Jaxe, the Muppets/John Denver Xmas CD is awesome. I'm not saying you don't have the right to knock it, or John Denver, but the Muppets, man, the Muppets.
True story: the stores here were having a sale of that disc, to get rid of them, and were playing them over the PA system when the news broke that John Denver had died. People just started showing up and buying them in droves and we wondered why, and that was why.
I have to say that I'm respectful of my physical and vocal expressions due to a good paddling. I think there are times for physical reprimand as there are times to talk it over.
He needs a spanking and she needs self-esteem.
Good one, RT.
I am so glad that the world has figured out how to pst advertisements in blogs now. I have had to delete three so far. If it becomes too overwhelming, I will quit the whole business.
A DJ talking about music? Hum. What a concept! Think it'll catch on? :o)
One other thing I was thinking about, what if the said girl is still fairly young and is just experiencing her first asshole b/f? She may not know what to do about it yet, and thinks that there is something wrong with her because of it, but once she realizes... It be another valuable learning experience.
As for spanking a child, I'm of two minds about that. One part of me says yes, absolutely. As long as it works for your child (and being a parent, you should know what does and does not work.) If it doesn't work, then you should be finding something that does.
On the other hand, I wonder how this whole spanking thing came about. I mean, who was the first person to spank their kid's ass, thinking that it would help. Seems kind of weird in a way...
I got to your blog by InsideStephen blog. Yeah, I got spanked too when I was little. I don't think it caused any severe trauma. Hmmm....
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